wouldn't we all love it if that was the case? of course its not and if we were all always right we would never learn anything about life.
abram has this crazy ability to be completely stressed out from work(he works with his family for 10 hours a day) and could've had a horrible day but will come home and you would never know it. now he tells me this made me mad or i was really pissed about that, i mean i know what happens at work but he it never shows in his attitude. it's not just with work either. life in general. he just doesn't dwell on things. i'm not saying that he is always cheery but i think it could be way worse than what i've got it. i just don't know how he does that. i mean when i've had a horrible day at home with the kids he definitely hears about it and gets some of my anger and frustration thrown at him. it's not fair it's just how i deal with it and i'm trying to work on it but it is sooo not easy. even when we fight we'll both come to a point where we know we are fighting about something so ridiculous and he'll say lets just drop it. i of course say ok but inside i'm just in knots trying to keep my mouth shut. i always want to have the last word and i always want to prove that i am right and if we "just drop it" then i never get that chance and it tears me up.
abram and i have been married almost 5 years and i'm just now learning that its not about always being right. i think i'll be forever grateful to him for helping me learn that. and believe me these last 5 years have not been easy and a big reason is because of my stubborness. we love each other now just as much if not more than when we got married but it has not been easy.
this issue i have is not a simple one to overcome. it is so hard for me to let go of hard feelings towards other people and of opinions that i have that are based off of those feelings. so i think i will be attending a birthday party this weekend that i do not want to be at but i know its the right thing to do. i will make the best of the situation and be the bigger person.